YOU ARE NOT A VICTIM.
No matter what you have been through, you are still here. You may have been challenged, hurt, betrayed, beaten, and discouraged, but nothing has defeated you. You are still here!
S. Maraboli
Whenever I feel bullied, I remember that there must be a victim if there’s a bully. That makes me the victim… and that has not been resonating within me lately. I don’t feel like a victim. Not anymore.
I do have a story of childhood abuse… but that doesn’t have to follow me into today, and I don’t have to identify as a victimized soul. I have another choice. I see that now.
How am I victorious? I AM STILL HERE. I am still standing, albeit some days wobbly and feeling beat up. Then I remember who I am – a spark of God, Divine, Source, Creator, Love – and I plant my feet more firmly and straighten my crown.
You have been delayed but not denied. You are not a victim. You are a victor. You have a history of victory.
Whenever I start to feel bullied, unseen, unheard, misunderstood… I speak aloud to myself, “WarriorQueen, you have risen to the top! You have raised FiveBeautifulSouls the best you could! You have created a whole new story around your relationship with your body! You no longer starve yourself or weight yourself every single damn day! You no longer hide! You no longer crave the attention and affirmation of ‘out there’ because you see yourself, you hear yourself, you understand yourself… Dear Soul, you love yourself! You have forgiven yourself and others! You walk in power and joy! You are wise! You are complete and whole, healing and healed! Today is the best day you could have made it so smile, dance, hug yourself, and allow yourself to be here now in this precious moment. Stay wild!”
When you complain, you make yourself a victim. Leave the situation, change the situation, or accept it. All else is madness.
E. Tolle
This is, by far, the biggest experience I’ve had in this incarnation. Coming out of victim mentality has been the most liberating action I have taken this time around. To know this freedom, I had to know it’s paradox: prison. And it IS prison when you realize that it is YOU yourself who has been holding you back all this time.
Which is empowering, indeed… for then it is YOU yourself who can see that there are no chains, no bars, no prison walls, no keys, no magic words, no jailor. There is only YOU and what you remember about yourself.
No more blaming and shaming. Feel those deep feelings and move the energies. Self-care. Take ownership of your thoughts, your nutrition, your exercise, and how you spend your time and money. Start journaling, sitting under Tree, being quiet. Stop stopping yourself, dear Soul.
You are ROYALTY. Remember! And act like it.
Your move.
If today you find yourself defeated, complaining, sitting in the shallow end of self-pity, let me assure you that I know exactly where you are. Luckily, I also know the way out (which is through, by the way.) Get quiet and hear the Whisper, “now is the time… to heal.” Straighten your crown, dear One, and here’s a hug.
Edge-y, joyful, pondering…
Lisa
Sound Therapist & Mind-Body Coach
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